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James 5:16 Confess to one another therefore your faults (your slips, your false steps, your offenses, your sins) and pray [also] for one another, that you may be healed and restored [to a spiritual tone of mind and heart]. The earnest (heartfelt, continued)prayer of a righteous man makes tremendous power available [dynamic in its workings](Amplified)
I think it is only human to want to have others think highly of us. However, I think that sometimes we assume that to have others think highly of us we have to hide our flaws and appear perfect.
What we forget is that God did no create perfect humans and when we try to make it look like He did we put off a sort of “holier than thou” friend repellent.
Now I don’t mean that the minute someone introduces themselves you should spill out ever sin you have ever committed, because that too would send people running from you instead of into a friendship with you.
What I mean is don’t be afraid to be you, imperfections and all. When the topic of housecleaning comes up and you struggle with it, admit it. You don’t have to make it a 30 minute talk about how horrible you are at it, but admit it is a struggle for you, and be open to listen to others who might have a few tips, but my guess is you are more than likely going to find that people pipe up and tell you they struggle with it too and they are going to feel attracted to you for just that reason.
Attraction leads to friendship development. So be you imperfections and all.
Another drawback of hiding our imperfections is that we end up attracting relationships that will fizzle out faster than an opened bottle of soda pop. What I mean by this is friendships are built on common bonds, if you make yourself out to be someone you are not in order to hide the flaws of the person you really are your bonds are not really going to be authentic and will die out.
This post is part of the New Town to Hometown series. Use the links below to dig into the series.
Part One: Becoming Friend Worthy
- It all begins with fellowship with God
- The most important lesson in friendship building
- Are you welcoming?
- Create mutual bonds
- Meet a need and make a friend
- Don’t try to look perfect (you are here)
- Not everyone is going to be your friend
Part Two: Places To Find Friends
- Start the search online
- Homeschooling groups
- Be the neighbor with the active porch swing
- Breaking the ice and setting goals
Part Three: Creating Community
Silly Stories Of My Moving Adventure
- It is going to be a long trip
- When you give a two year old a marker
- I was a soap opera star for just one day
- A sign that the long trip was about to end
- What happens when your landmarks become cornfields
Become A Snail Pacer
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