Becoming Friend Worthy: The Most Important Lesson In Friendship Building

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One verse that I still remember God pointing me to time and time again during our time of study on friendship was a familiar verse to me but one which He showed me I was missing a huge element of.

Galatians 5:14 For the whole law can be summed up in this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” (NLT)

Do you see it? Love your neighbor as yourself. How much you love yourself is how much you can love your neighbor, the two are inseparable. The two grow out of each other. If you want to be a good friend it starts with being a good friend to yourself.

How does a mom of three little ones find time for that? I asked God. From that question He started showing me how. He started showing me what I am good at. Note I didn’t say excellent just good. God is not looking for perfection from an imperfect creation. He is simply looking for us to marvel in His creation of us. To get to know and understand how he made us. To want to share ourselves as a gift to others.

So I started knitting and creating crafts again and through this I sparked conversations with others who noticed and wanted to create as well and soon a monthly craft night was started in various homes and creating together opened up the doors of communication.

I also starting going places alone again (as in without the children, or husband who had become my security blankets in my new town). I took myself out to lunch “come on me, myself and I, I want to get to know you better”. I started really thinking about what thrilled me, what brought me joy, what scared me, and what angered me.

The point is what have you done lately to show love to yourself. We are not talking about becoming so caught up with yourself that you think the world revolves around you. We are talking about knowing what you like and what you don’t like and taking time to purse and nurture what you do.

This post is part of the New Town to Hometown series. Use the links below to dig into the series.

Introduction: My Story

Part One: Becoming Friend Worthy

1. It all begins with fellowship with God
2. The most important lesson in friendship building (you are here)
3. Are you welcoming?
4. Create mutual bonds
5. Meet a need and make a friend
6. Don’t try to look perfect
7. Not everyone is going to be your friend

Part Two: Places To Find Friends

1. Start the search online
2. Church
3. Community
4. MOPS
5. Homeschooling groups
6. Be the neighbor with the active porch swing
7. Breaking the ice and setting goals

Part Three: Creating Community

1. Research before you leave

2.Visit your new local visitors center

3. Make a to see list

4.Take a Sunday drive

5.Study the areas history

6.Take part in all things local

7.Explore local state parks and playgrounds

Silly Stories Of My Moving Adventure

1. It is going to be a long trip
2. When you give a two year old a marker
3. I was a soap opera star for just one day
4. A sign that the long trip was about to end
5. What happens when your landmarks become cornfields