7 Simple Ways To Show Love To A Stranger

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I think we can all agree that the world would be a better place to live in if we all showed each other more love.

That task begins with us.

Seven simple ways to spread a little love to everyone you meet today.

If we want others to treat us with love, we must take the time to give love–even when we are rushed, even when we don’t feel like it, even when we feel others don’t deserve it.

The Morning I Was Reminded To Love

7 Simple Ways To Show Love To A Stranger

“Saw this leaf on my run today and immediately heard the word LOVE. Love when it hurts, love when it is joyous, love those you don’t understand and love those you do. Go out today and shower acts of love on all you meet.”

These are words I penned over a year ago. I was reminded of them recently thanks to Facebook and their “daily memories” feature.

These words represent how I want to spend my life. I am far from perfect at living out these words. I fail daily. Yet each day, each hour, each moment I have a choice. I have a choice to choose to love or to judge–may I choose love.  I have a choice to act in love or anger–may I choose love. I have a choice to show love or indifference–may I choose love.

We may never know why people act the way they do, or make the choices they make–but we do have a chance to choose how we react. React in LOVE.

7 Simple Ways To Show Love To A Stranger

7 Simple Ways To Show Love To A Stranger

1. Hold The Door Open

When I was a mom with little ones I so appreciated those that took the time to help me in this way. With a baby on my hip, a toddler tugging on my leg and a small elementary school child holding my only hand, opening doors was often tricky.

Another variation of this tip is to help someone who has their hands full with a tray at a fast food restaurant.

7 Simple Ways To Show Love To A Stranger

2. Give a Big Smile And A Hello

There is this one man I see pretty much any time I walk or run along our town’s river front trail. He always gives a big smile and a hello and it warms my heart. So much so that I now try to do the same to every person I see on the trail–and that is big for an introvert like me.

7 Simple Ways To Show Love To A Stranger

3. Leave a Generous Tip

You might not be able to afford to do this but if you can–do. Trust me, your thoughtful gift will be unexpected and will speak volumes.

7 Simple Ways To Show Love To A Stranger

4. Let Them Go Ahead Of You In Line

This tip isn’t just for those with 10 items or less. Use it for the mom with a toddler who looks like he or she is about to melt down. For the man who has looked at his watch 10 times in the last minute. For the elderly woman who looks like she is physically struggling with standing in line.

7 Simple Ways To Show Love To A Stranger

5. Pay For Their Items

Again, this is only if you can afford to, but it sure does make someone’s day. I have had this happen to me twice and both times I wore a smile the whole day long afterwards.

7 Simple Ways To Show Love To A Stranger

6. Make Small Talk

In this day and age small talk seems to be a lost art. I read the book How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships and it has made a world of difference in my ability to make small talk with strangers.

As an introvert, small talk used to frighten me. However, after reading How to Talk To Anyone I wouldn’t say I love it, but I do feel less nervous about starting conversations with strangers. What I am discovering is how people react when I mix small talk with a few of the steps mentioned above–people’s faces start glowing when others take the time to take an interest in them.

7 Simple Ways To Show Love To A Stranger

7. Look Up From Your Smartphone

While listening to the book Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead, I was so saddened by Brene Brown’s story of a fast food worker crying after Brene apologized for being on her phone while she ordered. Brene was shocked to discover that most people rarely stop to give servers eye contact–nor do they apologize for being otherwise occupied while placing their orders.

Eye contact is more important to feeling valued than you might think–and feeling valued is an important aspect of feeling loved.

Look up from your phone, better yet leave it in your pocket or purse, and give those around you eye contact when you interact with them.

 

You might have just read this list and thought, “Umm, these are so simple and obvious.” True, but many of us are not taking time to do any of them with any regularity. Lets be the ones to change that.

“If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don’t love, I’ve gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love.” (1 Chorinthians 13:3 The Message)

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The BIG Decluttering Question: Resell it or Toss it? A How To Decide Guide

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You have finally done it–you have decluttered either a room or the whole house, but now you are staring at the pile of things that didn’t make the “I love it and use it and therefore I am keeping it” pile.

Your family could always do with a bit of extra cash and the items in the pile sure could create some if you resell it–but should you?

How to decide whether you are better off tossing an item--or if it is worth the time and effort to sell it.

 

How To Decide Whether To Resell it or Toss it?

Be 100% percent honest with yourself when pondering each of the points below–if you are you will be happy with the outcome whether you tossed the clutter or decided to resell it.

When to toss

Toss it if  you simply do not have the time to take on the task of re-selling your items.

Toss it if  you can’t come up with a small financial goal you can reach with the sale of the items.

Toss it if  you are the type who steals from the throw out pile if it sits in your home too long.

Toss it if  you have no place to store the items until they are resold that isn’t a part of your main living space.

Toss it if  you have a history of saying, “I am going to resell these,” and then never do.

Toss it if  the amount of money you would earn from selling an item divided by the amount of hours it takes you to list it and sell it is less than your target per hour rate of return.

(For example, I set mine at $10 per hour. Any less and I just don’t feel it is worth the effort since it takes me at least an hour to clean, list and then deal with buyers. If I can’t sell the item for $10 or more it goes straight into the giveaway box)

Toss it if  the items are causing you emotional or relational stress.

Where to toss it

Obviously the type of items I am referring to in this article have plenty of value left in them–otherwise you would not be considering reselling them.

That said, your choices of places to toss your items are:

Give them to friends

Giving items to friends can be an opportunity to pass on a blessing or a chance to pass on a curse. Make sure you are doing the former and not the latter. You don’t want to get rid of your clutter by making it your friends’ clutter.

(Marie Kundo in her book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing talks about this problem extensively. Although I found some things in the book quirky, I do recommend reading it if you struggle with clutter)

Ask yourself –-Has my friend asked for an item like this in the past? Have I seen her/him using an item like this? Have I seen her/him admiring this? If the answer to these questions is no, give the item to charity instead.

Donate them to a thrift store

There are so many thrift stores to donate to. My favorite ones are local thrift stores that support local needs in my area. Of course there are other things to consider, such as ease of drop off.

If you are the type of person who has been known to take things out of donation boxes before you get them to the drop off center, then perhaps the best choice for you is the closest drop off center.

If you are the type of person who puts the items near the front door to donate but they never seem to make it to the drop off center, then the best thrift store choice for you is one that does pick up.

Get creative

There are many more ways of donating items beyond friends and thrift stores.

When my sister was a college student she observed a homeless person digging through a dumpster near her home. She decided to put a bag of clothes she no longer needed on top of that dumpster that next week. Sure enough, she saw the homeless lady the following week wearing some of the clothes she had left for her.

I get numerous free, and almost free,  paperbacks through Tyndale Rewards and Paperback swap. It gives my thrifty bookworm heart a thrill to leave these books in Little Library boxes whenever I see them. I keep a bag in the back of my SUV at all times and place books in it as I read them so I am ready whenever I see a Little Library with room for donations.

When to resell

Resell it if  you can find either a day in the next month to have a yard sale or a three to four hour block of time each week you can devote to selling the items through other avenues until they are all gone.

Resell it if  you can come up with a financial goal that you know you could reach with the sale of the items.

Resell it if  you are not at all inclined to take things out of the sale pile and keep them.

Resell it if  you can find a place to store the items until they are sold that isn’t in your main living areas.

Resell it if  you are truly willing to put in the effort to clean up the item, research what it is worth, list it, and go through all the steps of getting it sold.

Resell it if  the hourly wage you will get from the sale of item is worth it to you.

Resell it if  having it in your home while you sell it isn’t bothering you or someone else in any way.

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3 Things I am LOVING Lately: September 7th

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3 Things I Am Loving Lately What about you

Last week  I was here, there, and everywhere. Seriously I went out of town 5 days in a row! And I was out of town again last night. Thankfully though I am home for the rest of the week. I am looking forward to enjoying some reading on my front porch each evening and catching up on some blog work during the days.

my bike riding hubby

First Thing I am LOVING Lately…

Spending more time lately with my hubby.

The home we have been fixing up to rent for quite some time now is finally done. The new renter moved in over the weekend. That means my handsome hubby now has a lot more time on his hands. We spent some of it this weekend bike riding together — not once but twice.

 

pumpkin spice latte

Second Thing I am LOVING Lately…

They are back!

With September came the return of Pumpkin Spice Lattes . I indulged in my first one of the season after a morning of yard sale shopping with my daughter. I of course used a gift card earned through some of my favorite point rewards programs to pay for it.

 

mobisave

Third Thing I am LOVING Lately…

The MobiSave App…

I found another app that works at ALDI, or pretty much any other grocery store you might shop at– the MobiSave App (go here to sign up and enter my referral code OGHHUVPZ )

What I am liking so far about MobiSave is  it seems to continually offer several non-brand specific cash backs. This week I got money back on my Ketchup, Pickles and Potato Chips all were ALDI brand.

The second thing I am LOVING about the MobiSave App is no cash out limits. After you submit your receipt and it is approved the money you earned is deposited into your Paypal account. You don’t need $5 , $10 or more in cash backs to get rewarded!

Check it out here and use my referral code OGHHUVPZ during the sign up process.

Psst… one more thing

This year I really want to put myself out there and get to know exactly who reads this blog and let them see who writes it. Lately I have discovered that Facebook live is a great way to do that. Make sure you follow me on Facebook so you can join along.

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