The Importance of Boundary Lines In A Successful Marriage

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My husband began work on a new fence for our yard today, which is also the day of our 18^th wedding anniversary and I could not happen to see the similarities between the fence he is building plank by plank and the success of our marriage.

No we don’t have it all together. We are not the perfect couple, but we have made it 18 years now in a culture where the average length of a marriage is 8 years.

You see we built this marriage plank by plank just as my husband is building our fence.

Simple rules one stacked beside another of what is acceptable and what is not. Rules that have created a boundary around our marriage; keeping out attack.

Each plank stacked beside the other “ I won’t accept a friend request on facebook from a male unless my husband okays it” beside “I will show up often to work events of my husband’s to make my presence in his life is well known” beside “ I will check in with my husband daily in some way even when he is out of town to keep our relationship close”.

When I look at the old broken down fence the new is replacing I am reminded of the need for constant marriage maintenance. This fence got in such bad shape because our house was once an abandoned home with no one to care for it.

Am I taking time to care for my marriage, am I making sure I do not abandon the vows I took. To love and to cherish no matter what. Through babies, through toddlers, through family deaths, through tragedy and heart ache. Am I making my marriage a priority no matter what the stage of life I am in.Am I making sure he is close by my side always, am I involving him in both my sorrow and my joy.

Married people, form your boundary lines, maintain your boundary lines and above all else enjoy the one within, share joy, share love, share heartache, become one.