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If you scroll Pinterest in the homemaking category you would think that in order to be an excellent homemaker you need to have a sparkling home from top to bottom, make all your food from scratch, dress like a superstar, and always, always wear a smile. Confession–I have been a successful homemaker for over 20 years now and I don’t do or have any of the above.
My homemaking attitude could be described as “good enough”. A living room is “clean enough” when you can get to the couch without tripping on something and sit down without having to remove items. A dinner is “good enough” for my family when it contains all four food groups and is served at the dinner table where we are all seated together. An outfit is “presentable enough” when it is free of holes, rips and stains, fits well and makes me feel good about myself.
“Good enough” allows me to spend time on what matters most and be okay with letting what doesn’t slide to acceptable standards. Below are a few example “confessions” of what I mean.
I Don’t Iron! Plus 5 More Homemaking Confessions
1. I Don’t Iron
I own an iron and an ironing board and I have used them on rare occasions–extremely rare. I think the last time I ironed a shirt was back when my now 16 year old son was playing a business man in the church Christmas play and needed to look the part. He was probably nine at the time.
Perhaps I might iron more if my husband had a suit and tie style job, but then again I have seen my hubby use the iron and he is pretty good with it so probably not.
Related confession: I don’t fold the laundry straight out of the drier to avoid wrinkles either. If something I want to wear seems too wrinkly to be presentable I simply hang it on a hanger while I have my morning shower. If the steam doesn’t release enough of the wrinkles I put it in the drier for a few minutes then hold the garment by the top and give it a good shake or two. But normally I just buy wrinkle resistant fabrics to begin with so I might have to do this trick perhaps once a month, if that.
2. I Don’t Make My Husband’s Lunch
My husband does pack a lunch for work, but I don’t pack it. Considering I always put leftovers into meal size containers and stock the cupboards with grab and go lunch items I don’t really see the point. I mean I don’t know if he feels more like the leftover crock-pot beef stew or the leftover simple layered taco pie and in the time it takes me to ask him he could have gone to the fridge himself, grabbed what he wanted and put it in his work bag.
A few of my husband’s favorite grab and go lunch items:
- Trail mix sleeves–The ones at ALDI are so inexpensive it is hardly worth me making my own, although I did when the budget was tighter.
- Cubed cheese–I buy a big block of cheese each week and cut it into bite size pieces that he can grab and place in a sandwich bag for work.
- Nature’s Bakery Bars–These are two fruit filled type cookies in one sleeve. My husband likes them because he can grab one between work tasks and then go back and grab another later. Making it a great after lunch snack for him.
- Fresh fruit–I buy whatever fruit is in season and unless it is an apple or an orange I cut it up into bite size pieces and place it in a glass container with a lid. My husband simply places what he wants into a smaller, travel friendly container.
Related confession: While we are on the topic of lunches I haven’t made lunches for my kids since the youngest was old enough to assemble a sandwich and I really don’t remember what age that was–six maybe?
3. I Rarely See The Bottom Of My Laundry Pile
We always have clean underwear and socks, but 95% of the time we also have at least three loads of dirty laundry in the basement. The way I see it the main goal for a homemaker when it comes to laundry is to make sure that their family always has clean clothes available. My family always has at least several clean outfits in their closets and and at least one clean pair of underwear in their drawers.
Related confession: We all share socks–as in we have around 20 pairs of identical white socks and 20 pairs of identical black socks and they are all kept in a wicker box near our family room for people to grab as they need. We all wear the same sock size and neither my daughter nor I are into girlie colored socks and none of my boys care for guys fancy dress socks so no show sport socks for the entire family works.
4. I Make Cleaning Routines, But Rarely Follow Them
I have tried several times to follow a cleaning routine that either I made up or one that was made up for me. I usually manage to follow it for a week or so if it is made up by someone else (another blogger, etc.) and perhaps a month or so if I made it up.
A few years back I just stopped following one altogether and guess what happened? My home got cleaner even though I was doing less housework. Yes, you read that right. My home got cleaner even though I am spending less time cleaning. How? Instead of following a set list I simply spend a few minutes each morning walking through my entire home and noting what is visibly dirty that day, then I assign much of the work to my kids.
My kids are 15 and up and always looking to make some spending money and we live in a town where jobs for teenagers and young adults are hard to find. I am always looking for more hours in the day for blogging related tasks. So I use some income my blog creates to hire my kids to do chores so I can blog more and therefore earn more. As a bonus my children are learning how to do every task they need to know to be successful homemakers, including how to manage money. The system seems to be a win-win for everyone.
Related confession: In case you think my home is perfectly clean from top to bottom, you need to know that I am not that picky. Bathrooms and the kitchen are always high on my “must be kept clean” list. The other rooms of the house can stay at “could be picked up and company ready within five to 10 minutes” and I am fine with that.
5. I Don’t Spring Clean
I don’t spring clean my home from top to bottom as winter thaws into spring. Instead I Christmas clean. I make up a plan the week of Halloween that will help me catch up areas of clutter and dirt within our home between the day after Halloween and American Thanksgiving. If things have gotten really bad, I will make the plan a little longer, going perhaps until two weeks before Christmas.
I find that I am going to rearrange rooms for the Christmas season anyways to put up our decorations so why not deep clean as I am doing it? Plus, I would rather have my home sparkling clean before winter when I spend all my time in it than in the spring when I am starting to spend way more time outside of it. In spring I clean the porches, put out the patio furniture and replant my flower boxes, but that is as close to spring cleaning as I get.
Related confession: I don’t have an annual or monthly chore list I follow. Have you ever read Martha Stewart magazine? If you have, you might have read her monthly calendar in which she lists household tasks that should be done that month like “time to perform the quarterly wiping of the blinds” or “May is the month to rotate your wardrobe”. I don’t do anything like this. If something looks dirty I clean it, or as I confessed above I assign the kids to clean it. I don’t rotate my wardrobe or my decor (except at Christmas) because quite frankly I don’t have that much clothing, nor do I have seasonal decor items.
6. I LOVE Being A Homemaker
Despite being seen by some as a homemaking slacker I really do love homemaking. In fact I don’t see my “good enough” attitude as slacking at all; I see it as essential because it allows me to do my number one homemaking tasks to the best of my ability–and that is to make my husband and my children feel loved and valued. You see, to feel loved and valued my family needs my 100% presence when they are sharing funny stories about their day, disappointments about their week and frustrations with their current tasks. They need hugs more than drawers full of perfectly folded, straight from the drier laundry. They need eye contact more than they need 100% dust free at all times ceiling fans. They need a fully listening ear more than they need ironed clothing.
What is your BIGGEST homemaking confession? Share it in the comment section!
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