I Don’t Iron! Plus 5 More Homemaking Confessions From A Good Enough Homemaker

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If you scroll Pinterest in the homemaking category you would think that in order to be an excellent homemaker you need to have a sparkling home from top to bottom, make all your food from scratch, dress like a superstar, and always, always wear a smile. Confession–I have been a successful homemaker for over 20 years now and I don’t do or have any of the above.

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My homemaking attitude could be described as “good enough”.  A living room is “clean enough” when you can get to the couch without tripping on something and sit down without having to remove items. A dinner is “good enough” for my family when it contains all four food groups and is served at the dinner table where we are all seated together. An outfit is “presentable enough” when it is free of holes, rips and stains, fits well and makes me feel good about myself.

“Good enough” allows me to spend time on what matters most and be okay with letting what doesn’t slide to acceptable standards. Below are a few example “confessions” of what I mean.

I Don’t Iron! Plus 5 More Homemaking Confessions

1. I Don’t Iron

I own an iron and an ironing board and I have used them on rare occasions–extremely rare. I think the last time I ironed a shirt was back when my now 16 year old son was playing a business man in the church Christmas play and needed to look the part. He was probably nine at the time.

Perhaps I might iron more if my husband had a suit and tie style job, but then again I have seen my hubby use the iron and he is pretty good with it so probably not.

Related  confession: I don’t fold the laundry straight out of the drier to avoid wrinkles either. If something I want to wear  seems too wrinkly to be presentable I simply hang it on a hanger while I have my morning shower. If the steam doesn’t release enough of the wrinkles I put it in the drier for a few minutes then hold the garment by the top and give it a good shake or two. But normally I just buy wrinkle resistant fabrics to begin with so I might have to do this trick perhaps once a month, if that.

2. I Don’t Make My Husband’s Lunch

My husband does pack a lunch for work, but I don’t pack it. Considering I always put leftovers into meal size containers and stock the cupboards with grab and go lunch items I don’t really see the point. I mean I don’t know if he feels more like the leftover  crock-pot beef stew or the leftover simple layered taco pie and in the time it takes me to ask him he could have gone to the fridge himself, grabbed what he wanted and put it in his work bag.

A few of my husband’s  favorite grab and go lunch items:

  • Trail mix sleeves–The ones at ALDI are so inexpensive it is hardly worth me making my own, although I did when the budget was tighter.
  • Cubed cheese–I buy a big block of cheese each week and cut it into bite size pieces that he can grab and place in a sandwich bag for work.
  • Nature’s Bakery Bars–These are two fruit filled type cookies in one sleeve. My husband likes them because he can grab one between work tasks and then go back and grab another later. Making it a great after lunch snack for him.
  • Fresh fruit–I buy whatever fruit is in season and unless it is an apple or an orange I cut it up into bite size pieces and place it in a glass container with a lid. My husband simply places what he wants into a smaller, travel friendly container.

Related confession: While we are on the topic of lunches I haven’t made lunches for my kids since the youngest was old enough to assemble a sandwich and I really don’t remember what age that was–six maybe?

I Don't Iron! Plus 5 More Homemaking Confessions From A Good Enough Homemaker

3. I Rarely See The Bottom Of My Laundry Pile

We always have clean underwear and socks, but 95% of the time we also have at least three loads of dirty laundry in the basement. The way I see it the main goal for a homemaker when it comes to laundry is to make sure that their family always has clean clothes available. My family  always has at least several clean outfits in their closets and and at least one clean pair of underwear in their drawers.

Related confession: We all share socks–as in we have around 20 pairs of identical white socks  and 20 pairs of identical black socks and they are all kept in a wicker box near our family room for people to grab as they need. We all wear the same sock size and neither my daughter nor I are into girlie colored socks and none of my boys care for guys fancy dress socks so no show sport socks for the entire family works.

4. I Make Cleaning Routines, But Rarely Follow Them

I have tried several times to follow a cleaning routine that either I made up or one that was made up for me. I usually manage to follow it for a week or so if it is made up by someone else (another blogger, etc.) and perhaps a month or so if I made it up.

A few years back I just stopped following one altogether and guess what happened? My home got cleaner even though I was doing less housework. Yes, you read that right. My home got cleaner even though I am spending less time cleaning. How?  Instead of following a set list  I simply spend a few minutes each morning walking through my entire home and noting what is visibly dirty that day, then I assign much of the work to my kids.

My kids are 15 and up and always looking to make some spending money and we live in a town where jobs for teenagers and young adults are hard to find. I am always looking for more hours in the day for blogging related tasks. So I use some income my blog creates to hire my kids to do chores so I can blog more and therefore earn more. As a bonus my children are learning how to do every task they need to know to be successful homemakers, including how to manage money. The system seems to be a win-win for everyone.

Related confession: In case you think my home is perfectly clean from top to bottom, you need to know that I am not that picky. Bathrooms and the kitchen are always high on my “must be kept clean” list. The other rooms of the house can stay at “could be picked up and company ready within five to 10 minutes” and I am fine with that.

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5. I Don’t Spring Clean

I don’t spring clean my home from top to bottom as winter thaws into spring. Instead I Christmas clean. I make up a plan the week of Halloween that will help me catch up areas of clutter and dirt within our home between the day after Halloween and American Thanksgiving. If things have gotten really bad, I will make the plan a little longer, going perhaps until two weeks before Christmas.

I find that I am going to rearrange rooms for the Christmas season anyways to put up our decorations so why not deep clean as I am doing it? Plus, I would rather have my home sparkling clean before winter when I spend all my time in it than in the spring when I am starting to spend way more time outside of it. In spring I clean the porches, put out the patio furniture and replant my flower boxes, but that is as close to spring cleaning as I get.

Related confession: I don’t have an annual or monthly chore list I follow. Have you ever read Martha Stewart magazine? If you have, you might have read her monthly calendar in which she lists household tasks that should be done that month like “time to perform the quarterly wiping of the blinds” or “May is the month to rotate your wardrobe”. I don’t do anything like this. If something looks dirty I clean it, or as I confessed above I assign the kids to clean it. I don’t rotate my wardrobe or my decor (except at Christmas) because quite frankly I don’t have that much clothing, nor do I have seasonal decor items.

6. I LOVE Being A Homemaker

Despite being seen by some as a homemaking slacker I really do love homemaking. In fact I don’t see my “good enough” attitude as slacking at all; I see it as essential because it allows me to do my number one homemaking tasks to the best of my ability–and that is to make my husband and my children feel loved and valued. You see, to feel loved and valued my family needs my 100% presence when they are sharing funny stories about their day, disappointments about their week and frustrations with their current tasks. They need hugs more than drawers full of perfectly folded, straight from the drier laundry. They need eye contact more than they need 100% dust free at all times ceiling fans. They need a fully listening ear more than they need ironed clothing.

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10 Books That Will Help You Toss That Clutter

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Sometimes what you need to kick start your decluttering is a good book. I am serious! I once read a book on decluttering that was so good I had to put it down when I was only halfway done because it was creating such an urge inside me to toss stuff I just had to get started. And I didn’t stop tossing until I had sent three truck loads to the thrift store.

That book and nine more are on this list of 10 books that will help you toss that clutter!

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10 Books That Will Help You Toss That Clutter

1. Lose the Clutter, Lose the Weight: The Six-Week Total-Life Slim Down

This book is my most current read on decluttering. I found it really interesting how the author of Lose the Clutter, Lose the Weight was able to prove a direct relationship between the excess in our houses and that on our hips.

2. Make Room for What You Love: Your Essential Guide to Organizing and Simplifying

What I really liked about Make Room for What You Love is how the author mentions several times in the book that decluttering for good is a gradual room by room process–finally a realistic timeline for decluttering.

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3. Unstuffed: Decluttering Your Home, Mind and Soul

If you need to declutter more than just your closets Unstuffed can help. The author goes beyond discussing how to deal with household clutter, discussing schedule clutter, emotional clutter, and relationship clutter.

4. The More of Less: Finding the Life You Want Under Everything You Own

If you know you should declutter your home, but you just can’t seem to find the motivation or the know how The More of Less is the book for you. I really like this author’s tips for dealing with items you’re not really sure if you should keep or toss.

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5. The Nesting Place: It Doesn’t Have to Be Perfect to Be Beautiful

This book inspired me to make a plan to do some serious extreme decluttering when I get home from the RV trip I am currently on with my family. The Nesting Place is a decorating book and not a decluttering book, but the tips within it will help you clear out the clutter to expose the beauty of your home.

6. The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing

The truth is I don’t agree with everything within the pages of The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. For instance, I don’t think my socks have to be folded just so or they will feel neglected –my socks don’t have feelings, so as long as they fit into the space I provide for them all is well. However, the author does share more good decluttering wisdom than just plain weird stuff and adhering to her rules (the non-weird ones) can help you conquer clutter.

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7. Clutter’s Last Stand: It’s Time To De-junk Your Life!

This is the book that I mentioned in my opening paragraph. Clutter’s Last Stand is an oldie but a goodie. It will have you tossing clutter by the truck loads. If you can’t get your hands on a copy, any of the author’s other clutter titles are just about as good, although Clutter’s Last Stand is my personal favorite–it is my decluttering motivation weapon of choice.

8. Smart Organizing: Simple Strategies for Bringing Order to Your Home

In Smart Organizing you will learn a simple three step decluttering method that you can apply over and over again to any room that you want to dig out from under clutter. This book is also full of ideas from real life people who are winning the clutter battle.

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9. 31 Days To A Clutter Free Life: One Month to Clear Your Home, Mind & Schedule

Do you just want someone to hold your hand and walk you through how to declutter each room of your home step by step? If so, 31 Days To A Clutter Free Life is a great read for you. I personally couldn’t see doing that much decluttering in one month, but you of course could easily slow down the plan to suit your own personal comfort level.

10. Organized Simplicity: The Clutter-Free Approach to Intentional Living

Go beyond decluttering your home and create a simple life–that is the essential message of Organized Simplicity. The book will help you look beyond the surface of why you need to declutter to what you want from a clutter free home.

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Do You Feel Like You Just Don’t Have Time To Declutter?

Make Over Your Mornings and Make Over Your Evenings

Feel like you would love to get rid of the stress your cluttered home is causing you, but you simply don’t know how you could squeeze time to declutter into your already cram packed life?

I recommend taking Make Over Your Mornings and/or Make Over Your Evenings. These are 15 day, video driven courses that come with a workbook for you to complete. Each day’s lesson consists of a five minute video, five minutes of reading and a five minute workbook activity.

The information I learned in the Make Over Your Evenings course gave me 30 minutes each and every morning without getting up earlier. The Makeover Your Mornings course is just as full of great time saving advice that can help you carve out time to rid your house of clutter and finally make your home the haven you know it could be.

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The Room A Month Extreme Decluttering Challenge

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Are you ready to get serious about breaking up with your clutter piles for good? I know I am and I have hatched a plan that I think will help me and you both.

Now this is really going to help you toss that clutter!


The Room A Month Extreme Decluttering Challenge

If you are a regular reader here at Snail Pace Transformations you know that currently I am on a 22 week RV trip with my family. This RV trip has given me lots of time to think about what I really want my home to look like–and I want it to look a whole lot less cluttered than it does now.

The trip has also given me the opportunity to live with significantly fewer possessions for just over 5 months–and I don’t miss more than a handful of the items we left at home. I miss my couch, my bigger kitchen counters and oven, my toilet and shower and a real bedroom door (our RV just has curtains). Those are pretty basic things. Not one of them could be considered clutter.  There are a few other things I miss from time to time, like my bread machine, and during colder parts of the trip my warmer winter coat. Still my list of things I miss is significantly shorter than the list of things I left behind.

Yet I still can’t bring myself to just call a friend and say, “Hey, can you empty my house before I come home?” That seems just a bit too radical so here is what I plan to do instead.

I am going to box up one room each month and what items don’t come out of those boxes by the end of the month are either going to be sold or donated.

How The Room A Month Extreme Decluttering Challenge Works

Week One

Box up all items of the room for that month except for the basic needed furniture of the room. I am talking bare bones furniture. For example, if you are doing your living room then leave just the couch and TV and perhaps an end table or two.

Finding an area to store the items might be tough. I suggest thinking about where a week or so before you start this challenge and then use that time to make room in that area of your home to store things. Perhaps you have a guest bedroom? Room in the basement? A storage shed? A garage? Wherever you choose try your best to make sure it is some place out of sight so you don’t feel like you are living in chaos for months and so that you are not tempted to take things out of the boxes every time you pass them.

Week Two

Do nothing! Simply let the stuff sit in the box, bringing out only those things you truly need or miss. Example, perhaps you really do need that table lamp to read by at night, or perhaps you really miss seeing those cute pictures of your kids. Dig out those types of things, but nothing else.

Week Three

Repeat what you did week two.

Week Four

After two weeks of doing nothing now comes the bigger task. Go to the boxes you stashed and divide the piles up between those items you want to sell and those items you want to donate. You haven’t seen any of these items for almost a month now so your attachment to them should be significantly less than what it once was.

The hard part is going to be not getting reattached to those items. Here is what I plan to do to limit that and I suggest you do it too. Purchase a good sized tote like this one and make it your keep box–or you can use one you already own. You can keep only what fits in that box (you can decided if the lid has to shut or not) the rest has to be sold or donated.

Remember: you lived without those items for a full month now. How badly can you really need something you haven’t used in a month?

Repeat this one month challenge room by room until each and every room in your home is done.

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 A Few More Rules To Keep You Honest & Successful

In order for this challenge to work you have to be truly honest with yourself and set rules that will keep yourself in check.

Reselling Rules

After the first month of the challenge is done you should find yourself with items to sell. What I want you to do with those items is place a date  on the outside of the box that is four weeks from the day that you decided you would sell them. So if April 1st was the day you did your sorting then write May 1st on the outside of the box.

Now sell, sell, sell and if items are left in that box after the date passes then it is time to donate, donate, donate.

Let’s face it, we all have good intentions about reselling our items, but often those items just become neglected, gather dust and clutter up our homes. We want a 100% decluttered home when we are done so the sell pile at the end of each month must go.

Need some help with reselling items? Check out my Reselling Tips page where I share everything I have learned about reselling items.

Can’t decide whether to resell an item or donate it? Check out this post that offers guidelines to follow that will help you answer that exact question.

Donation Rules

If you would rather donate items than sell them, that is 100% okay. However, you still need to give yourself a few rules so that you do have a clutter free home at the end of this challenge.

Here is the most important rule to follow when donating items: get the items for donation out of your home as fast as possible. I suggest putting the donation boxes into your car the day you pack them and then head straight to the thrift store when you are done. The longer donation boxes sit in the home the more temptation there is to grab something out of them. Plus, a stack of boxes in the corner becomes clutter really fast and again–the aim of this challenge is a clutter free home.

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How To Stick To The Room A Month Extreme Decluttering Challenge

In order for this decluttering challenge to work you need to stick to it for as many months as you have rooms and if you have a garage, garden shed, or attic you need to add a few more months to the challenge.

Decide ahead of time what will help you stick to the challenge. Do you need accountability? Join my Snail Pace Decluttering Facebook group. Do you thrive on rewards? Then decide what you can give yourself each time you finish a room. It could be something simple like allowing yourself the time to just sit and enjoy the newly clutter free room for an afternoon without feeling guilty about sitting that long or it could be something bigger like a weekend away once every room in the house is completed.

Drastically reduce your household clutter with this extreme decluttering challenge!

When I Plan To Begin My Own Room A Month Decluttering Challenge

I plan on getting started with my own Room A Month Decluttering Challenge in July. I will blog about my progress on Mondays here on Snail Pace Transformations and would love to have you join me.

Who is in? Tell me your start date in the comments below. Together we can transform our homes!

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